Friends in the Fire {Holey, Wholly, Holy}


A year ago found me flat on my face, bent in submission, desperate for Jesus. And for once it wasn’t because of a life altering event or a significant trial. No. I went into the refiner’s fire intentionally as I asked Him whole-heartedly to make me less so He could fill more of me.

Through the entire Lenten Season, He chipped away at what didn’t belong and polished the dark corners of my heart.

Those of you who have joined me on this journey awhile might remember a few posts during that time of refinement. I tried to share some of it with you, but wow was it ever hard. I struggled with finding words to portray how low I had to become before He could pick me up again. And let’s face it. I wasn’t brave enough then to share the horror I saw when God held up a mirror before we began.

But I had to talk to someone. I needed to spill out the ugly, the pain, and the holy found in-between. Friends, I needed to reveal the work He was doing in me. Primarily because I needed prayer.

It started as a gut whisper. A feeling deep down that maybe Kris knew what I was going through. I had been reading her blog during Lent and, call me crazy, but it felt as though her road was paralleling mine.

Last June, I finally got brave and decided to reach out. I sent Kris this exhaustive email spilling my whole heart on the page. I shared my refining journey. Friends, her response was the epitome of grace as she made her own confessions to me and revealed the construction zone of her present state.

Kris showed me that I wasn’t the only one in the fire.

I look back now on the ashes of 2012 and see the gift(s) God gave me. Through many emails, phone calls, tweets, and comment exchanges, Kris became my Meshach in the furnace of refinement. Because even then, God knows we need a tangible friend to help us see Himself through the flames (Daniel 3:25).

This year, I’m looking forward to the Lenten season. For I know what awaits for me on the other side. And because now, thanks to Kris again, I can take the journey with you.

Holey Wholly HolyYou see, that construction zone God built around Kris last year has turned into a work of art.

And as an offering to Him for what He has done for her, Kris is sharing her discoveries with you in a book titled: Holey, Wholly, Holy: A Lenten Journey of Refinement.

Over the next 8 weeks, scattered throughout blog posts, I plan on sharing what God has shown me through the journey of refinement. And because of the Biblical truths Kris’ book was based upon as well as my experience through the refiner’s fire, I expect to use her book as one of my guides. It would bless me so if you would follow along and share with me your own experiences.

Friends, Kris is offering this book in PDF form FOR FREE right now. I would be thrilled if you would stop by her place and sign up for your copy. And I would be honored if you would come back and let me know you’re willing to walk through the fire with me this Lenten Season.

For your reference:

  • This amazing eBook, Holey, Wholly, Holy: A Lenten Journey of Refinement may be acquired HERE free for a limited time.
  • You may purchase a hard copy of the book, read reviews and even the foreword I was blessed to write for Holey, Wholly, Holy HERE. (Simply click the “To Look Inside” to read the foreword)

How about you, friend? Have you experienced the refiner’s fire? Do you know what Lent is really all about? (If you don’t, this short, insightful read is a perfect place to start!) I’d love to hear from you.

And because I’m sharing this with you on Music Monday, may I share a song with you, too? I have many in mind, but keep going back to the one that started it all for me last Lent: “Give Me Jesus”. Subscribers, you may click HERE to be taken to that original post, read the lyrics, and listen to this amazing song.

Thanks for sharing your time with me.

Simply striving,


29 thoughts on “Friends in the Fire {Holey, Wholly, Holy}

  1. Nikki, I downloaded the pdf of the book and I look forward to reading it along with you and walk through the fire as well, this Lent. By the way, I just LOVE that song!

  2. I downloaded the book and I am ready to go. I need to commit, let go and allow God to minister in a way I need Him to. I know He will do it. I have a lot of baggage to let Him deal with. 🙂

    • Yay! I’m so excited, Janet–thank you! I plan on doing my first post on Ash Wednesday and then every Wed through Easter. Hope to hear your thoughts along the way! trusting we can work through our baggage together… {HUGS}

  3. (((hugs))) These grace-filled words are pure gift to my heart, Nikki. I am so thankful that God brought us together through what turned out to be a life-changing season. I can’t imagine not having shared it with you. Love you. I look forward to wandering along beside you again. Where will he lead us?! I can’t even imagine…

  4. together, in submission and true transparency, we are stronger – in Christ – without him…we are but a heap. So blessed to be walking the journey with you this year – excited to see what God has in store!

  5. Nikki…I downloaded Kris’s book intending to read it “when I could”. Turns out that time was immediately. The fallen part of me flinched big time at the thought of refinement, but I kept reading…And then I realized that refinement is exactly what I’ve been in! I’ve had different names for it, and I approached it from a different angle, but here I am. The mirror is up, and I am aghast. And yet, I feel His gentle love. Pray for me? Praying for you as you share, you brave, amazing, cherished friend! XOXOXO

    • YES! You are being refined!! Oh how timely this book is out for you, Mandy. I’m so thrilled you read it already. I have to tell you–I’ve read it three times now and with each time thought I’d read it slower and savor more, etc… but I gleam something new each time and get so excited about what else I’ll see on the next page;)

      I’m so honored to be prayer partners with you. Yes…let’s pray each other through. {HUGS}

  6. Hi Nikke
    Yes, we all need to go throught that fire often times. Our Pappa does say in Isaiah that He refines us through the fire of suffering. I am glad that you have shared your journey with us and I am looking forward to the next chapters.
    Much love

  7. Sweet friend… I was so proud and blessed when I opened my downloaded version and began to read the first few pages over the weekend… finding your writing in the beginning was like a friendly voice saying, “Yes. This.”

    • Oh, Karrilee, I don’t deserve you. (I don’t even deserve to be in there–God’s just that good) Thank you, friend. Hope you walk through this with me. I plan on posting something every Wednesday starting next week! ack! prayers appreciated…. {HUGS}

    • Yay! Thank you!! I look forward to walking through this with you and am praying you get what He has for you through this book… Just so you know, I plan on posting something ever Wednesday starting on Ash Wednesday. Looking forward to seeing what He has in store for me this year and am humbled to have the chance to go through it with you!

  8. I downloaded this book and after reading your introduction knew that I needed this refinement even though I have never wanted to go through the fire. But to come out on the other side in the likeness of our precious Savior makes it a glorious journey. Thank you for the opportunity to read the book and take this journey along with you and other dear Christian women.

    • Joy, the honor is all mine. Thank you, friend, for supporting me. So blessed by you. I hope to post each Wednesday starting next week. I’d really appreciate your prayers as I try to formulate words to describe the path He is taking me on…thank you, Joy!

  9. I’ve downloaded the book and cannot wait to read. I know that God is going to do an extreme work in my heart. This refiner’s fire is not often comfortable, not at all, but just knowing that He goes with me and that you come along side of me will make it worth it. He’s worth it!

    • Oh He is worth it, Barbie! What an awesome God He is…so thankful He allows us to have friends in the fire with us. Anxiously anticipating what He has in store for us this Lent, friend. Honored to walk through it with you!! thank you! just so you know, I plan on posting each Wednesday about it starting next week. Prayers appreciated!

  10. You know what I think is so beautiful?–how you so courageously reached out and shared your heart with Kris. I love how you trusted God’s whisper to trust this community He was bringing. That is so powerful to me, Nikki. And now, the relationship He has created–so beautiful. I can’t wait to read every word of the journey you are on, friend.

    • Can you believe I was scared to share my heart with Kris, Jennifer? It makes me smile now…;) I mean, she’s as gentle and loving as you!;) Thank you for joining me, friend. Striving to glorify Him here as I know this could end up to be quite painful…prayers appreciated! {HUGS}

  11. What a beautiful story of a Holy Friendship. I am checking with the husband to see if his ipad can download kindle books (dont do the digital book thing typically but will make an exception)

    • I’m so excited you’re willing to join me on this journey, Leah! just so you know, if you head over to Kris’ sight and request the free download, it’s simply an emailed attachment/pdf style. If you want to purchase on Amazon, they do work on ipads (I checked with a friend who has one) 🙂

      hope to post each Wednesday about this –starting next week. Would cherish your prayers!

  12. Hi Nikki,

    I left a comment over at 5minutes for faith but wanted to tell you that when I read the forward to Kris’s book, I ‘knew’ it was you! I was gonna ask her if it was to make sure but saw one of your posts about it. LOL… I love how God pulls things together! I’m also honored to be going thru His refiner’s fire too. I’m trying to listen and see if I’m going to write about it on my blog yet or not. I know that I’m going to be writing about it in some way, besides Journaling of course! My One Word 365 is ‘WRITE’! Yep, no mistaking it…I am to write and write a lot this year.

    Praying for you sweet friend. I love that God brought you and Kris into my life to journey beside during this season. Will love reading your posts during Lent.

    {HUGs} Love Ya, Susie 🙂

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